We often motivate ourselves by a harsh inner dialogue. We threaten and warn ourselves of possible failures. Such harsh self talk hurts us, causes anxiety of all sorts and harms our health.
Research reveals that kindness and self compassion, are better motivators and also decrease the stress of inner or outer pressure. Failure and mistakes are a part of life and learning. We are all human here together. Check out selfcompasssion.org. for the guided meditations on selfcompassion. 
